Grow Up Already

Guys, you know I love you, but I have a bone to pick.

So, why is it that guys all of a sudden feel they have this monopoly over the whole “fear of rejection” rationale? You won’t approach, talk to, attempt to talk to, or call us. You think we don’t fear rejection as well?

While we generally are not the ones to make the first approach, and thus do not have to confront that initial potential for rejection, we still are forced to reckon with what happens after you make the initial call. Even the best of you have moments where you leave us wondering.

And what about the old bystander, “I’ve been hurt before.” Haven’t we all? When you reach a certain age, it’s rare that you have traversed through life unscathed. We all have battle wounds and scars from our past. Not that I am negating your experience (or mine for that matter), but at what point do we sift through our feelings, deal with them, and move on? When do we stop projecting feelings on the next person we meet? Not that we shouldn’t be careful or guard our hearts, feelings, or emotions. Not that we should do the opposite and allow ourselves to get close to someone new overnight. However, we have to be open to the idea in time. To let go of the crutch and walk strong.

We all need to start behaving like the grown ups we are and operate in reality instead of resorting to the games we once used to play. We need to throw caution to the wind, put our fears behind us, and respond honestly and truthfully to each other. It’s about time.